Ever wonder why a mum looks at her child sleeping in a crib seconds before the baby starts crying. That's because , like they say , its in the genes ! Love starts right there. Its actually love that makes the mum conscious that her baby is gonna cry. I think that is amazing. And what is more amazing is that even when the baby is around 35 or 65 yrs old, the 60 or 90 year old mum still does turn back and ask "Are you ok son?".
People generally show love under three circumstances. First, if they know its worth it, like they get something back, maybe love or pleasure or benefits. Second, when they are loved, and they feel worthy of being loved, they want to love back. Third, when they are hated and want to prove that hating back is not worth it and it's below their class.
It will be worth the time to list down all your close ones, family, friends, co-workers and all and then list down on why you would love them. I don't mean the erotic sense of love, but the brotherly kind of love.
Why do I love my parents , is it because they give me the safety I need or will I love them even if its my turn to give them the safety they need ?
Why do I love my friend, is it because he/she helps me all the time, supports me on all my statements or will I love him/her even when they don't respond to my call for 10 days.It all boils down to the equation under which love works. First , we get back only when we give. Second, we may keep giving and giving and giving to receive a small deposit back. Hey, sounds unfair right ? Yea, it does, but its worth it, because it makes you a better person. So that is the message of this blog....you gotta earn the love you need.
Its easy for your mum or your spouse to love back, but what about those who do not want to love us, but we yearn for their love, how do we win them over. These are the kind that constantly misunderstand you, constantly tease you, say negative things about you, maybe even want you dead...do we really need them to love us back ? Is it worth the try....why not just give up on them and carry on with our lives. Sounds neat, but what if its between you and your own child, or your spouse or your parents or your in-laws? You dont want to move out, move away. So what is the option then? If the nuke is the greatest weapon mankind has envisaged, I guess LOVE would qualify to be the greatest weapon God had envisaged. And you already have it. So go use it, put it to work, work harder and harder with it and soon you will reap your rewards. A Tamil proverb says "There is not a single door that Love cannot unlock". So bang on the closed doors with love, not with hatred and revenge, those are failure weapons. The right weapon as always would be Love. No one has ever stood against it and won. Look at the mighty British empire, bowing out before Gandhi...its simply loving mankind and doing the right thing for the other man.
According to me, a life spent in revenge, hatred and loneliness, is a life wasted. We are created to love one another with our whole heart. First , we should learn to love God, who has loved us and created us so beautifully, next we should learn to love those around us. Appreciate their company, life is fragile, tomorrow they may not be there.
I was at the Taj last week, and thats when I thought I should write this blog. There is no use for a monument of Love, when you did not find the time to love them when they were near by. Even if its one of the wonders of the world, what is the use, Mumtaj never lived to see it. 
